The emotional impact caused by miscarriage usually take longer to heal when compared to that of physical impact. Allowing yourself to grieve the loss helps to accept it and to get over it
A roller coaster of emotions such as numbness, disbelief, anger, guilt, sadness, depression, and difficulty concentrating may cause as a result of miscarriage. Even if the pregnancy ended very early, the sense of bonding between a mother and her baby can be strong. It may also result in physical symptoms such as fatigue, loss of appetite, trouble sleeping, difficulty in concentrating, and frequent episodes of crying. The hormonal changes that occur after miscarriage may intensify these symptoms.
The grieving process involves three steps:
Step 1: Shock/Denial
Step 2: Anger/Guilt/Depression
Step 3: Acceptance
Each step takes longer to go through and sometimes anticipated triggers may lead to setbacks. These potential triggers may include: baby showers, birth experience stories, new babies, OB/GYN office visits, nursing mothers, thoughtless comments and family reunions.
Generally women are more expressive and are more likely to seek support from others. Men may be more action-oriented, tend to gather facts and problem solve, and therefore do not always choose to share feelings. They often bury themselves in work when they are grieving.
Parents experience different levels of bonding with a baby. A woman can begin bonding from the moment she has a positive pregnancy test and this bonding may be strong and unique. Bonding for the father may start as he experiences physical signs of the baby, such as feeling the baby kick or seeing an ultrasound picture. However, real bonding may not develop until the baby is born and therefore men may seem less affected when the loss occurs early in pregnancy. These differences may sometimes result in strain in your relationship as you try to come to terms with the loss.
You can help your relationship to survive by:
By healing, it is not either forgetting or making the memories insignificant, but it means refocusing.
You have the right to: